What will your reaction be when your best friend introduce your ex to you as someone he or she wants to marry, with the knowledge that the person was once you ex? Feel free to say your mind your response is always appreciated!😘

Welcome to Yemmymarrel’s blog, it’s nice having you again😘. Moving into our discussion for today, I will like to say that heartbreak really hurt. I won’t be talking like those people that make you feel like you are weak when you are sad or hurt to the extent of even crying about an heartbreak. You are not weak, it only shows that you have a good heart and plan for the relationship and that it didn’t work out hurt you. So don’t feel like you are odd or weak, you are strong but you can be stronger when you move on. You can move on by doing these:

1. Keep busy:

If you’re in school, double your usual study time. If you work, take on extra hours and more projects. Go to the gym and take an exercise class. Take up a hobby. Attend every available event going on at your school or community centre. Do things with your family. Volunteer for an organization. Accept every invitation to be with your friends. The busier you are, the less time you’ll have to think about your ex in general. You’ll also have people who can keep you accountable to not browsing his/her social media or picking up the phone.
Write them a letter you never send. Pour your feelings out into paper. You might prefer a video diary. Whatever medium, talk through your rage, your sense of betrayal, your anguish, your confusion, your neediness, your frustration. Cry, scream, tear paper, punch your mattress. Everything you want to tell them, tell your diary.
Tell yourself what you want to hear. You probably want validation from them. Instead, give it to yourself. Confirm to yourself that you’re a good person, a desirable person, a loveable person. Draw pictures, chant mantras, anything to communicate to you the message that you deserve love, happiness and an amazingly supportive lover.

2. Contact your ex once:
Only once, wait at least a few weeks so their temper is cool and their mind clear. Don’t play any games or use manipulation, just tell them you miss the good parts of the relationship you have and would like to have them back in your life. You can let them know you’re willing to make change, but don’t beg or make unreasonable promises. Respect yourself and maintain your dignity. Keep it short. If they want more, they will contact you. Don’t cry on the phone.

3. Let time pass:
This is so difficult, but mandatory. Focus your thoughts elsewhere. Pay attention to what you actually miss about your old relationship, and find ways to be fulfilled in those ways. Maybe he/she always went to your games and cheered you on. Find people who will support you. As those needs are met, the desire for the old person will fade.

4. Distance Yourself:

Mute his/her accounts, cut all the necessary contacts that you have with him/her, prevent yourself from getting in touch with him/her. It usually not easy at first, you may still be stalk with his/her pictures on Instagram, you may still take a look at his/her last seen. But be determined to cut all contacts.

5. Know your value: when you know your value, you will know you deserve someone better than an heartbreaker, you won’t bring your standard low by begging someone that doesn’t want to be in your life to stay. You will move one with your self dignity and pride😇😍

Being in a relationship maybe a thing that is generally accepted, yet it’s a choice. You decide if you want it or not. I have seen people talking about relationship as if it is a do or die thing. Get it now relationship is not your oxygen, with or without it you will survive. The people telling you to be in a relationship has not even asked you if you have discovered purpose or if you have something you are doing or planning, to make impact in life, instead they misplaced priorities. There are important things that should be before a relationship, if these things are not there, by default, the relationship won’t be a success. Don’t force yourself into any relationship or allow anybody to intimidate you into being in one. If you think you are not ready for it, maybe financially, emotionally, spiritually or psychologically, my dear don’t rush, take your time to make sure you are fit and ready for it. It’s better to be happily single than to be in double wahala. If there’s anybody that want to bring down your self esteem because you are not in a relationship please do well to shun them. Being single is not a disease, you are complete and whole.

You dictate and decide when you are ready for a relationship and nobody else. Be complete and be ready for it. Don’t be intimidated into it. You are the CEO of your life, hire and fire at your choice!

Thanks for reading😘 Watch out for how to move on after an heartbreak🚶🏃

Hello guys, welcome to Yemmymarrel’s blog😍. Over the years, I have noticed that when a boy loves his female friend, he doesn’t find it easy at all to let her know or even ask her out. You see the boy always not coming clear to the girl about his feelings. Let’s give our opinions and comments on this, why do you think guys find this hard? It’s evening talk with Yemmymarrel😆😍

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There are times in a relationship where a partner or both of them are wondering that is this relationship true? Do we really love ourselves? Most times is the lady that is asking question like oh guy do you really love me? Is not as if she doesn’t believe you love her? But there’s a part of her feeling like I’m not so sure this guy loves me. She want to be safe and sure, so also is the guy when he’s having the same feeling, he want to be convinced he is not in relationship with just himself. Every person in a true relationship wants to be ascertained of being in a safe hand. Things that prove that love is true are:

1. Selflessness: the partners in a true relationship ain’t selfish, they prefer each other. You desire the good of your partner and he/she does the Same in return. No selfish interest, before thinking of what your partner can offer, you would have known what you have to offer for the benefit of the relationship . 2. Good communication: partners in a true relationship are always ready to communicate with each other. When your partner is always busy to talk to you, it often shows that he or she isn’t into you. So don’t force such relationship to continue. If your partner truly loves you no matter how busy he or she is, he or she will create your time because they realise you are part of their life. So you are important too as anything that always keep them busy. 3. Forgiveness is easy: in any relationship, misunderstanding is inevitable, so when there’s true love, forgiveness is easy no matter the offence. Partners may even make up their minds at initial of the relationship to always forgive each other. Sorry is always easy to say and the other person is ready to forgive. 4.understanding of differences: this implies that you ain’t forcing your partner to be who they are not. You understand that you both are different people with different attributes. So don’t try to change them to be you. Instead if there’s anything in them you don’t like, talk things out and let them know the reason why if such thing continue and not dealt with it, will affect the relationship or it’s dangerous. Wisdom is the ability to understand differences and a wise person build the relationship and not mar it. Thanks for reading!