Welcome to Yemmymarrel’s blog, it’s nice having you again😘. Moving into our discussion for today, I will like to say that heartbreak really hurt. I won’t be talking like those people that make you feel like you are weak when you are sad or hurt to the extent of even crying about an heartbreak. You are not weak, it only shows that you have a good heart and plan for the relationship and that it didn’t work out hurt you. So don’t feel like you are odd or weak, you are strong but you can be stronger when you move on. You can move on by doing these:
1. Keep busy:
If you’re in school, double your usual study time. If you work, take on extra hours and more projects. Go to the gym and take an exercise class. Take up a hobby. Attend every available event going on at your school or community centre. Do things with your family. Volunteer for an organization. Accept every invitation to be with your friends. The busier you are, the less time you’ll have to think about your ex in general. You’ll also have people who can keep you accountable to not browsing his/her social media or picking up the phone.
Write them a letter you never send. Pour your feelings out into paper. You might prefer a video diary. Whatever medium, talk through your rage, your sense of betrayal, your anguish, your confusion, your neediness, your frustration. Cry, scream, tear paper, punch your mattress. Everything you want to tell them, tell your diary.
Tell yourself what you want to hear. You probably want validation from them. Instead, give it to yourself. Confirm to yourself that you’re a good person, a desirable person, a loveable person. Draw pictures, chant mantras, anything to communicate to you the message that you deserve love, happiness and an amazingly supportive lover.
2. Contact your ex once:
Only once, wait at least a few weeks so their temper is cool and their mind clear. Don’t play any games or use manipulation, just tell them you miss the good parts of the relationship you have and would like to have them back in your life. You can let them know you’re willing to make change, but don’t beg or make unreasonable promises. Respect yourself and maintain your dignity. Keep it short. If they want more, they will contact you. Don’t cry on the phone.
3. Let time pass:
This is so difficult, but mandatory. Focus your thoughts elsewhere. Pay attention to what you actually miss about your old relationship, and find ways to be fulfilled in those ways. Maybe he/she always went to your games and cheered you on. Find people who will support you. As those needs are met, the desire for the old person will fade.
4. Distance Yourself:
Mute his/her accounts, cut all the necessary contacts that you have with him/her, prevent yourself from getting in touch with him/her. It usually not easy at first, you may still be stalk with his/her pictures on Instagram, you may still take a look at his/her last seen. But be determined to cut all contacts.
5. Know your value: when you know your value, you will know you deserve someone better than an heartbreaker, you won’t bring your standard low by begging someone that doesn’t want to be in your life to stay. You will move one with your self dignity and pride😇😍
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